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The Art Of WAR!!!

4/6/2013

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    Ok so, we received lots of questions about how we keep the peace in out relationship :)  How do we fight, if we fight at all?  So we definitely argue lol!  What couple doesn't?  We actually think that it's healthy to communicate differences of opinions...in a respectful way.  Ty and I have had our fair share of arguments over the past 12 years lol, and we are still working on ways to make our arguments go smoother!  So we decided to share some things we have learned from each other during arguments and some things we are going to try out in our future arguments :) LOL!


Here's what we are trying to do LOL:  
 1.  Watch what we say and how we say it  
  Once you say something, there's really no way to take it back :(

2. Proactively confronting issues 

  It is so important to respectfully let your spouse know what is bothering you before it gets out of hand and boils over!!!

3.  Trying not to topic jump!  
     We are working on arguing about one thing at a time lol and trying to stay focused so the particular issue can be resolved.

4.  Watching our body language and tone of voice 

    Rolling eyes, huffing and puffing, staying seated etc..... they all matter LOL!!!

5.  Knowing when to take a time out!  

   When we feel like things are getting out of hand it's time for a breather lol. We're also trying not to make the time outs last a long time because that then tends to make things more tense for us lol! 
  
6.  Trying not to "one up" each other! 

   If one of us says something mean, the other shouldn't try to top that with saying something even worse!

7.  Don't laugh during your arguments!!! 

    It can make someone feel like their feelings don't matter or it can seem like you are not taking the conversation seriously.  You might also want to hold your back sarcastic smiles when your spouse tries to explain themselves, and are having a hard time getting the words out. lol

8.  Setting a time limit! 

   Our arguments can be pretty lonnnnnng!  lol  So we thought about getting a timer and setting a time limit for our arguments to prevent wasting time. ( As a side note, lol, Ty suggests that we immediately "make up" if we exceed our argument time limit!!! SMH)

9.  No arguing in the car!

   Not only is arguing while driving dangerous, it could result in a long walk home!

10.  No fighting on the phone or text messages. 

  It's is very difficult to read tones through "text" when you are upset.  Also, hanging up on each other solves absolutely nothing!!!! lol

11.  Don't go to bed angry.  

   If you go to bed angry,  there is no "right" side of the bed to wake up on the next morning. 


12.  Make up after your arguments :)  
    Set a date night or something to re kindle that flame!! Oh yeah!

13.  Admitting when we're wrong!

    This one is tough, but it makes you stronger in the end when you put your pride aside and admit that you made a mistake.    As for the spouse who is receiving the apology, don't rub it in!!!

14.  Stay prayerful!  

  God know all and sees all, so going to him with your problems is always an awesome idea.  Prayer changes things!  Even bad attitudes :D 


Check out The Art of War - How We Argue! (Part 1) - NaturalMe4C


 The Art of War - How We Argue! (Part 2) - NaturalMe4C  on YouTube :D
4 Comments
Mee-Mee
4/11/2013 09:09:20 pm

These are great tips! No wonder you guys are so adorable! :)

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NaturalMe4C
4/11/2013 10:04:30 pm

Hey Mee-Mee!
Thank you soo much! :) We still have a lot of work to do in the arguing department LOL

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Nikkigsu16
4/11/2013 11:35:50 pm

I just love your Art of War video. It was laugh out load funny over something that can be quite serious. I love the time limit one with penalty. I really hope my husband is willing to watch your YouTube video and we make our own list. Thank you guys for sharing your experience. It is great to hear a couple laughing, having fun, and praying together. Keep up the good work.

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NaturalMe4C
4/12/2013 12:47:41 am

Hi Nikkigsu16!
Thank you soo much! We are soo glad you enjoyed those videos :D Arguing is bound to happen lol, and I think it's something that we all could use some extra practice with lol! We hope your husband enjoys the videos as well :D Have an awesome day!!!

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